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© 2013 LifePower LLC
Carlos Marin | Empowering People
to Achieve Success and Freedom
Have you ever found yourself unmotivated and procrastinating in your work or business? I know I have and for a long time that was the story of my life. I couldn’t get myself to do the things I needed to do to succeed in my business. I like most people was getting by, doing OK but there was no zest and no excitement!
The reason most of us have these feelings is that we have impotent dreams and goals. We are really not invested in what we truly desire so therefore we lack the drive to achieve. You see motivation is really a motive that is so compelling that it literally drives you to take action… It is motive-action!
So the big question is where do we find such a big motive? And the answer like most things in life is it’s already inside of you. You don’t actually find it you define it. So let’s do a powerful exercise that I’ve taught people for many years to define and get total clarity on what YOU truly desire.
In order to do this, you must have some fun, let go of preconceived notions of what you’ve been taught is not possible, and become a kid again.
Do you remember the TV show “I Dream of Jeannie”? (Many of you may be too young and will have to see the re-runs!) The show is about an army aerospace captain who finds a bottle with a Genie in it who wants to give him all his wishes—but he wants to do everything himself, the human way, and he only lets Jeannie the Genie do her magic stuff when they get into trouble and he can’t figure a way out with his intellect.
Sounds like a lot of us, right? We have the ability to do magic with our lives, but we’re so afraid and full of unbelief that we don’t to use our power, and then when we get into trouble we go and beg God to fix it.
However, right now I’d like you to imagine that you have your own Genie, which will give you whatever you desire, and you can be, do, have and give anything you want in life.
Anything at all… what would it be? So get out four sheets of paper right now and…
On the first one write BE
On the next one write DO
On the next one write HAVE
On the last one write GIVE
Before you do this exercise, I want you to understand something.
Over the years, many people have told me that their main problem is getting motivated. I can relate, because as I already mentioned, that was my problem too, but I finally understood why. My goals were too small. I was afraid of failing or getting hurt again. In other words, I had impotent goals and was lacking a big dream.
Your motivation must be so strong that it compels you to take action—literally drives you and moves you to take massive action to attain it.
Answer this: Can you get really fired up about just paying your bills or being able to eat at McDonalds once a week? Can you get totally pumped and excited about just getting by, feeling “so-so” or being average?
Before anyone feels insulted, remember that God didn’t create average; he doesn’t make junk. It’s people who choose average. If you want to overcome average and be excited and motivated on a continual basis, you have to think big—you have to think of the possibilities.
To have tremendous motivation, you have to have tremendous goals that literally drive and transform you. It’s time to let go of your fears and preconceived notions.
The rules of this exercise are simple: don’t prejudge if it’s possible or probable, and simply let your imagination go wild like it did when you were a kid.
As you prepare to do this exercise, imagine you have your own genie or you can imagine God appears before you and tells you that He’s going to grant you all the desires of your heart in the key areas of your life (HAVE, DO, BE, GIVE) that you can write down in five minutes. Use whatever works best for you just don’t hesitate or over-think or rationalize it.
I want you to understand how this exercise is supposed to go. Have you ever brainstormed anything? This is brainstorming. You don’t start thinking, is 6,000 square feet too big? Should it be only 4,863 square feet? Is a Bentley too gaudy? Should I just settle for a Cadillac? What will people think of me if I have my own airplane? Is it too decadent? What about my own chef? What about desiring a soul mate that is drop dead gorgeous, and loving, and giving, and… am I asking too much?
Don’t second-guess yourself. If you’ve ever thought about it in your wildest dreams, write it down. If you wanted it when you were a kid, write it down. Before you learned to feel guilty about having money and riches, did you think about having it? Before you became a pious, self-sacrificing human being, did you think about having it? When you were a selfish child, did you want it?
When we were kids, we didn’t care. We were innocent and our inner knowing drove us to desire the best in life. Now that we’ve been programmed and worn down by guilt, we’ve allowed all this unworthiness to affect and control us and make us feel we don’t deserve the good things in life. That’s why you have to go into this playing with the heart and mind of a child.
Let’s start with HAVE.
This is all about the “stuff.” It could be any material thing from houses and cars to jewelry, boats, expensive toys, to businesses, income, relationships or anything that you can physically obtain—whatever falls into the category of HAVE. Just make sure that you include a lot of material things for your fun and enjoyment.
As we get started, take a deep breath, close your eyes and really imagine God/the Universe has given you the ability to make all your dreams come true. You have been transformed into the person you know is inside you, the person you’ve always desired to be. Now, open your eyes and write down everything you’d like that person to HAVE!
Remember, don’t prejudge at all. You can always do that later. Let your imagination go wild, and even if you’re not sure that you desire it, if it pops into your mind, write it down. You can always take it off the list later. Don’t miss out on something that you may truly desire by second-guessing yourself.
Stop and take 5 minutes to do this now!
Now, take the paper with DO and write down everything you think you might want to DO.
Again don’t prejudge—don’t disqualify yourself. Remember, God is giving you everything you can write down in the next five minutes because he loves you so much and you’re such a great person. I’m serious; don’t let the guilt get you. Today, be that little kid; you can always go back to being an adult later. It’s time to let yourself go.
Let your imagination go wild!!! Again, pull out all the stops. You can do anything you want. Maybe you want to…
Climb Mount Everest… sail around the world in a sailboat… Spend a couple months in Tahiti… Create a foundation for kids… Take six months and work on yourself spiritually… Build a huge business… Learn how to fly, sky dive, play the guitar or write a book… Produce your own movie or TV show, etc., etc.
What do you want to do? Remember, this includes anything and everything, from playing sports or musical instruments to accomplishments in business.
Stop and take 5 minutes to do this now!
Let’s go to BE. This is a really powerful area that massively impacts your life. We’ve worked on Identity, but doing this exercise in this format actually helps to expand it, so go for it right now!
Write everything you even remotely think you might want to BE in your entire lifetime.
And, by the way, some of these things are interchangeable and wind up in multiple categories. For example: In the BE category, you might say, I want to be a millionaire. In the HAVE part you might say it differently, as I want to have $1 million or $5 million. And in the DO area you might say, I want to build a multi-million dollar business. These are all valid, based upon the way you process information.
So no prejudging—be a kid—imagine your personal Genie giving you your wildest dreams. By the way, that doesn’t just mean millionaire, billionaire or gazillionaire… It’s, I want to be a loving father or mother, or a great friend, or a great speaker, or the man/woman who changes the world, a best selling author, a public speaker, a famous musician, financially free, a philanthropist, an artist… So, go for it now.
Stop and take 5 minutes to do this now!
Last but not least, take the paper with GIVE and write down everything you want to give or contribute.
For many people, this can be the most compelling goal because here is where you make a contribution to mankind and leave your mark on this world.
Write down everything you’d like to share or give—any type of contribution at all, whether it’s money or time or building an organization that impacts mankind, but don’t stop there. Consider what you’d like to give your spouse, children, parents, your friends or anyone else you care about.
Stop and take 5 minutes to do this now!
Wasn’t that fun? You should be really excited! So now, go through the list of desires you’ve written and determine when you truly want to achieve or realize each one. As you go through them, if you find that you wrote something you don’t really desire, just scratch it off. Alternatively, if your juices got flowing by doing these exercises and you realize you’ve sold yourself short, you can increase the size of any of these desires.
As you go through the list, put the number 1, 2, 5 or 10 beside each item, indicating the time frame in years in which you’re committed to having it.
Put the number 1 beside the ones you’re committed to achieving in one year or less. Put a 2 beside those you’re committed to achieving in two years. Put a 5 beside those you’re committed to achieving in five years. Put a 10 beside those you’re committed to achieving in ten years or more.
So to be clear, you’re going to go through the four sheets of dreams you’ve written, HAVE, DO, BE and GIVE and you’re going to categorize each item based upon the time frame that you’re committed to achieving each one.
Please understand, this is not an exam… This is a gut check. This is not a head thing; it’s not something you’re reasoning out and analyzing. It’s a gut feeling as to when you really want to have, be, do or give those things you wrote down. There are no right or wrong answers, except what you feel to be right. Your inner knowing will tell you by how you’re feeling. Take a few minutes to do this now and in my next article I’m going to teach you a powerful strategy to make these dreams real for you in order to give you the power to actually achieve them, so until then…
Please leave me your comments and questions below and share this post with everyone you care about. Also become a partner in my empowerment community at http://facebook.com/carlosmarinlive and promote it to everyone you love and care about. The world needs YOU and your contribution so we can help millions of people raise their consciousness and get free in 2012! God bless and live your passion!
In my last article I shared with you some of my personal background to help you start understanding how we align with or miss our purpose in life and what a fine line the difference can be. As I mentioned, since I couldn’t decide what I wanted to be and lacked a dream that required an advanced education, I didn’t go to college.
Due to the high expectations that my family had for me due to my learning abilities I felt pressured to go into a professional career. Since I didn’t go to college that pressure eventually led me to into the insurance field, a very respectable professional career. I started in developing a clientele in the property and casualty arena, then added life and health insurance. I was studying financial planning when I was introduced to network marketing.
I wasn’t great in the insurance field because I didn’t like to talk about negative things like dying, being hospitalized or car accidents. I did like working with people, however, so I focused on helping them solve their problems with insurance and I did okay by most people’s standards, but I wasn’t fulfilled.
On the other hand, what I liked about network marketing was that I could continually talk to people about achieving their dreams and goals. I saw myself as a business consultant who helped people improve their lives financially.
The only problem I had was a great fear of public speaking (which is pretty much a game breaker in this industry). This stemmed from the fact that I had been laughed at in the second grade while trying to give a book report in front of the class. That event traumatized me and had paralyzed me from speaking in public ever since.
I told one of my mentors, who recruited me into the business that I didn’t like to speak in public. He said I wouldn’t have to do so, unless I wanted to and he would do the meetings for me. What he didn’t tell me was that after my first 3 or 4 meetings I’d have to take my people to meetings he was doing, wherever they might be!
So after going crazy chasing him all over 3 counties in South Florida to have him show the business to my prospects, the day came when I got tired of dragging my prospects all over town, following him to wherever he was doing business presentations. I told him I’d try doing meetings myself.
He said it was no big deal. All I had to do was make up some 3×5 cards with information I wanted to cover, tell people I was new at this and let them see how excited I was by the opportunity. He said it would all work out.
He also gave me a book called The Magic of Thinking Big and pointed out the chapter on how to overcome fear. The cure for fear it turns out (and you might want to add this to your philosophy of life) was, “Action cures fear.” In other words do the thing you fear and the fear will disappear!
I followed his advice, made the 3×5 cards and even gave myself a pep talk in front of the bathroom mirror as he had suggested. I got myself all pumped up, but as I walked out of the bathroom and tried to put the 3×5 cards in my pocket, they fell on the floor. To make matters worse, I had forgotten to number them. As I panicked, I heard the host of the meeting introduce me. I freaked out.
Seconds later, I stood in front of about ten people, opened my mouth to speak… and nothing came out! I finally started talking but my voice cracked. I sounded like a twelve-year-old girl in distress.
That night, I did a presentation that was supposed to take one hour… in about seven minutes. Then, I introduced my mentor as “the person who has taught me everything I know about this business” and he finished explaining everything I had forgotten in about forty-five minutes.
When he asked for questions, one guy actually said, “What do we have to do to get started? Because if that guy can do it, anybody can!”
That night, I became determined to succeed at public speaking. It took a while—at the beginning the only one who laughed at my jokes was me—but something kept driving me forward. I secretly had a deep desire to perform, but I also had a big fear of rejection and failure.
Remember, early in my life I was a performer. I was the star running back on the football team. I loved to sing and dreamed of being the lead singer in a band. The seed of the dream to be a public speaker was inside me.
I needed to build some confidence, develop my own speaking style and acquire the right skills. People say “practice makes perfect” but it’s really, “perfect practice makes perfect” and since I had some good mentors guiding me and some good speakers to model, I improved rapidly.
I did presentations day after day and even gave speeches in my car. After a while, I got really good at it.
Today, if you ask me what I love to do so much that I lose track of time and go into timeless awareness, it’s teaching people the universal principles of success—and doing it in public venues.
In fact, the larger the audience, the better I like it and the more fun I have. In the past twenty-eight years, I’ve spoken to several million people. I’ve put on events where we had over 67,000 people in a soccer stadium for two-day business and personal development seminars.
This is my purpose in life—to teach people how to achieve success, happiness and wealth. I’ve grown a lot, both personally and financially by pursuing my purpose. I’m on a constant journey, learning, evolving and coming into conscious oneness with my higher self. I know my purpose and am committed to use my talents to contribute to humanity.
The more I share and give, the more fulfillment and success I create in my own life. In a way, I feel like the lead singer in a band. I’m able to make people feel good and bless their lives by sharing my talents. It took a long time for me to figure this out but I didn’t really have anyone guiding me down this path.
I’m here to help you figure out what your TRUE purpose in life really is. Whatever it is has to resonate with you. It has to turn you on, light your fire, fire you up and drive you with a passion that cannot be quenched other than by you living that purpose!
In my next article I’m going to walk you through an exercise that will really help you get in tune with your passions and find your purpose in life. There is nothing more rewarding than knowing and living your purpose… anything else is trying to climb the ladder of success while its leaning against the wrong wall. And that only leads to frustration, confusion and burnout so stay tuned and until then…
Please leave me your comments and questions below and share this post with everyone you care about. Also become a partner in my empowerment community at http://facebook.com/carlosmarinlive and promote it to everyone you love and care about. The world needs YOU and your contribution so we can help millions of people raise their consciousness and get free in 2012! God bless and live your passion!
The second step of the Ultimate Success Formula is all about defining clearly what you desire in life. To create your ideal life, you must know exactly what you want. In other words, what is your Point B? To begin, let’s start with how you define success.
Today I personally define success as the continued expansion of happiness by knowing who I really am and expressing ever-greater levels of life, love and beauty. It comes about as the result of living life by universal principles with an accurate philosophy of life that brings happiness and fulfillment.
How do we create this philosophy of life? In my experience, the best place to start is with our purpose. I believe we were all put on this earth for a reason and that reason serves the rest of humanity because in reality we are all One.
The way to find your purpose is to discover your true essence. As you learned in the last chapter, you are an individualization of God so your essence is Spirit. When you know this, you know that you are unlimited pure potential and have unlimited power to manifest what you truly desire.
Additionally, we have gifts, talents and abilities that are uniquely ours and there’s at least one thing you can do better than anyone else. When you’re doing this thing, you enjoy it so much that you lose track of time. You go into what’s called “timeless awareness.”
Since the expression of your talent serves a purpose that meets the needs of the rest of humanity, you will be living your “Point B,” your successful, happy life, enjoying perfect self-expression.
Have you discovered your purpose in life yet? One way to do this is to examine what you liked to do earlier in life before too much training and conditioning took hold. What did you want to be when you were growing up? Was it something you really loved to do, like dance, sing, play football or baseball, perform in some way or be a fireman, policeman, or doctor? Think about it a second.
Many people will tell you they wanted to be a lot of things but weren’t good enough at any of them. Most of us were not that disciplined when we were young, so we may not have discovered our true talents and gifts… but we all had tendencies.
To be truly great at anything no matter how much native ability you might have, you still have to do it over and over and over to perfect your skills. The greatest basketball player in history, Michael Jordan, wasn’t even a starter on his High School basketball team until his junior year!
We’re usually interested in certain things during our youth that are in the same general area of interest as our core purpose. We will need to hone our skills and develop the drive, discipline and vision to make the most of our gifts, but they usually are in view when we are young and developing.
For example, when I was a kid I wanted to be a football player and I also wanted to be lead singer in a band. I spent hours per day playing football pretending to be the star running back scoring numerous touchdowns every game. Then I’d go home at night and sign in my room pretending to be Paul McCartney signing all the top Beatles songs.
My parents strongly encouraged me to become something “worthwhile” and “respectable” (preferably an attorney) since I had a facility for learning but I really didn’t want to do that. Since I lacked a dream that required an advanced education, I didn’t go to college.
I guess all along I had this desire to perform and do something that people enjoyed watching and made them feel good! I had no idea back then that there were many ways to perform and produce these same feelings in others and myself in ways that would bless all of us which I’ll share with you in my next article.
So now its your turn… what did you like to do when you were younger. What activities made you feel good about yourself and enjoy life? What did you like to do and what were you relatively good at? You don’t have to have been a superstar at it just things list some things you loved doing and had some native ability at. Take a few minutes to brainstorm this with yourself, remember what you felt and really tap into those feelings.
In the next article in our series we will use these affinities to determine your purpose and get you on the road to achieving your dreams! Until then…
Please leave me your comments and questions below and share this post with everyone you care about. Also become a partner in my empowerment community at http://facebook.com/carlosmarinlive and promote it to everyone you love and care about. The world needs YOU and your contribution so we can help millions of people raise their consciousness and get free in 2012! God bless and live your passion…
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